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Funeral Homes and Millennials

When dealing with Millennials at funeral homes in Sterling Heights, MI, funeral directors will undoubtedly have to be prepared to make adjustments for and adapt to them. Millennials (born between 1983 and 2000) are a generation that perplexes every other generation before and after them.

Produced by overprotective parents and an educational/social system that lavished praise on them for just existing and made sure that the road was smooth, with no failures and no bumps, every step of the way, Millennials can be challenging to deal with in just about every area of life.

Funeral homes are now dealing with that challenge. To meet that challenge, funeral home directors need to know what makes Millennials tick.

Millennials have grown up in a world surrounded by technology. Before they were teething, they were playing computer and video games. Technology is at the core of how they defined themselves.

Because of technology being a part of their lives from the beginning, Millennials are going to demand that funeral homes have the technology to handle modern funerals. This means having the ability to livestream funerals, the ability to handle social media, advanced image manipulation, and to make it all smartphone or tablet-friendly.

Funeral homes need to be prepared for Millennials to tell them how to use technology and how Millennials can do it faster, better, and more efficiently. Millennials see most things – and traditions – as being outdated and old school, and they will not be afraid to tell you that.

It may come across as offensive, but funeral homes need to wade through what is actually offensive (Millennials, in general, tend to treat anyone older than they are with disdain, and as ignorant relics who couldn’t possibly know anything) to listen for what is relevant.

There are many ways that technology can benefit funeral homes and enable them to provide even more services to bereaved families who are planning the funerals of their loved ones. Incorporating these can mean that families can share their loved ones’ services with people throughout the world and they can create a virtual experience to remember.

Some Millennials are more environmentally conscience and they will want final disposition options that embrace that. They are more likely to opt for green burials and non-fossil fuel cremations.

While traditional burials usually include embalming, caskets, and casket vaults, green burials are designed to let the body decompose naturally, reducing the environment impact on the Earth. Millennials who favor green burials may want biodegradable burial containers and burial in “green” cemeteries.

Instead of traditional cremations, which uses heat to cremate the body, Millennials may choose an alternate form of cremation like alkaline hydrolysis (also known as water cremation). Although alkaline hydrolysis is a process that has been patented since 1888, it has not emerged as a preferred choice for final disposition until the last decade or so.

With alkaline hydrolysis, the deceased’s body is decomposed using a mixture of water (95%) and sodium hydroxide or potassium hydroxide (5%). While the time to break down the body takes longer, the carbon footprint of the process is about 1/10 of that of regular cremation, which makes it attractive to some Millennials.

Millennials will also want more personalization with their funerals. This generation is used to be able to customize everything because their lives have been customized from the beginning. Funeral homes will need to be able to meet their customization demands – which may often change on a dime – to give them the funerals they desire.

For more information about Millennial expectations at funeral homes in Sterling Heights, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help.

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Communicating Sympathy

When you know people who are having funerals at funeral homes in Macomb, MI, one of the things that you need to do is communicate sympathy to them. Acknowledging someone else’s loss of a loved one is one of the kindest and most empathetic things we can do after someone dies.

However, many people may feel sympathetic, but they don’t find tangible ways to express it to the bereaved family. You would be surprised how few people take the time to explicitly give their condolences to grieving families as they deal with the death of their loved one.

That lack can often lead the bereaved family to feel very alone, to feel as if nobody cared about their loved one, and nobody cares about them. While feelings may not reflect reality, they certainly can form lasting impressions in the minds of the people who are experiencing them.

That’s why, no matter how inadequately you may feel about communicating your sympathy to them, you should make an effort to do it anyway.

You don’t have to get prosaic or elegant. A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” is more than enough. If you know the grieving family well or you knew their deceased loved one well, then a good way to communicate your sympathy to them is to include a fond memory or a comforting story with your message.

However, there are some things that you should absolutely not say when you are communicating sympathy. They include:

  • “They’re better off.”
  • “I know how you feel.”
  • “At least they’re not suffering anymore.”
  • “Now you can get back to your life.”
  • “You should be happy they are not sick anymore.”
  • “I’m surprised they made it this long.”
  • “It’s all for the best.”

These things indicate a lack of sensitivity about the bereaved family’s loss and a lack of understanding about death in general. It’s important to remember that you will never know exactly how anyone else really feels when someone they love dies. While you may have experienced a similar loss – a child, a parent, or a sibling – you reacted in your own unique way to that loss and the grieving family members will each react in their own unique ways to their loss.

If you want to empathize, two of the best phrases to use are “I can’t imagine how you must be feeling…” or “I can’t imagine what you’re going through…” because these acknowledge the uniqueness of loss and grieving from individual to individual.

What ways can you use to communicate sympathy?

If you’re a person who likes to talk on the phone, your first instinct when you hear the news of someone’s death is to pick up the phone to call one of their family members. Don’t. That last thing anyone who has just lost a loved one wants to do is talk on the phone.

Instead, you can sit down and write them a short note of sympathy (you do not have to go out and buy a card – if you wait, you may forget) and get it in the mail as quickly as possible.

You can also send flowers or plants with a short sympathy note attached to the family home. Plants are often a more thoughtful gift because they can be transplanted by the family, who will remember your kindness after their loss.

You can also communicate your sympathy by a short visit. Be sure to bring a little food and keep your visit short. Other people may be visiting at the same time, or there may be a steady stream of visitors in and out, which, while appreciated, can be very tiring.

For more information about communicating sympathy at funeral homes in Macomb, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help.

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One Decision You Should Make Before You Die

One day your funeral will be among the funerals conducted at funeral homes in Sterling Heights, MI. You may not want to think about your death now but avoiding thinking about it doesn’t mean it won’t happen eventually. When you do die, what do you want to happen?

Planning for your death now lets you put all the details about your funeral in place so that your wishes are known and so that your loved ones are not burdened with having trying to figure out what you would have wanted while they are in the beginning phases of accepting and processing your death.

In planning for your death now, there are several things you need to consider about what happens after you die.

One thing you need to consider is whether you want to be buried underground or you want to be cremated. If you want to be buried underground, what cemetery or graveyard do you want to be buried in? Do you already have a funeral plot? Will you purchase or secure (family and church funeral plots are usually free, if there’s space, to members) one before you die or will your family have to do that after you die?

What kind of casket do you want to be buried in? The funeral home has many styles to choose from and the funeral director will be happy to go over the choices they have available. It’s important to remember, as well, that most cemeteries and graveyards now require vaults for casket burials. The burial vaults help stabilize the cemetery or graveyard grounds to withstand the weight of the heavy equipment required for digging graves and doing maintenance.

Do you want a funeral service or a graveside service? If you want a funeral service, what do you want included in it? Are there certain people that you want to participate in the service? Do you have a certain clergy member that you would like to officiate the service? Are there certain readings, scriptures, and songs that you would like played at your funeral service?

If you want a graveside service, what do you want it to include? Who should perform it?

If you’re a military veteran, do you want military honors at your funeral? The funeral home will coordinate this, but you should have your DD-214 included with your important papers because the funeral home will need a copy of that in order to coordinate military honors.

What kind of grave marker do you want? If you’re entitled to military honors, they will provide a gravestone or a grave market, but your family will be responsible for having it set at your grave.

If you want to be cremated, do you want a direct cremation (no services before you’re cremated) or an indirect cremations (services are held before you are cremated)?

If you want a funeral service before or a memorial service after your cremation, you should think about the details of the kind of service that you want.

What do you want done with your cremation remains? Many people would like to have a portion of their cremation remains scattered in a place that’s special or sentimental to them. The remaining cremation remains may be placed in an urn (the funeral home has many different styles to choose from) and either kept by your family or inurned in a columbarium niche that has a grave market or gravestone placed in front of it that identifies you.

For more information about planning funerals at funeral homes in Mount Sterling Heights,, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help.

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Letting Go Naturally

About half the funerals at funeral homes in Clinton Township, MI are for older people who have lived full lives and have a treasure trove of memories and a perpetual legacy they have left behind for their families.

Some of these loved ones died naturally of old age with basic medical care, while others had surgeries, procedures, and medications that extended their lives for perhaps a few weeks, a few months, or a few years beyond when they would have naturally died.

In a time past, when older people neared the end of their days, they were propped up on a comfortable pillow, in a bed freshly made with clean sheets, near their favorite window where they could watch their grandchildren outside and watch their daughter inside as they went about their daily routines.

Food cooked on the stove was offered and they might take a bite or a sip or they might not. A radio played softly in the background with their favorite tunes. Family members were in and out to quietly talk with them for few minutes, and then they were allowed to drift back off to sleep.

There was no pressure for the older family member to be engaged. There might be a flutter of the eyelids, a smile of recognition, or the light squeeze of a hand. That was enough.

These were how older people who were nearing death died. They were safely ensconced in a familiar house, with familiar smells, and with familiar sounds. They could be in the present or they could be recalling all the memories of their lives. The young child running in the yard. The teenager on their first date. The young adult in college or at their first job working, Marriage, children, grandchildren, and perhaps greatgrandchildren.

They might talk in half-sleep or in the fog of senility about the times they remembered best – the distant past, the significant events in their lives, the people they loved who had preceded them in death.

And when they died, they were surrounded by all of this love, all of these memories, at home.

Very few older people, unless they make their medical wishes clear and have a medical power of attorney appointed who will make sure that they are adhered to, who are nearing the end of their lives die this way today.

As medicine has advanced, doctors feel obliged to do everything they can to intercede and prolong the lives of people who are simply dying because their old and it’s time. Often, this intercession does more harm than good, and while it may give quantity of life, it seldom gives quality of life.

Modern medicine can intervene to breathe for a person, to feed a person, and to handle bodily functions for a person. It can extend life by artificial means without actually enhancing life. When older people are nearing death and are kept alive, it’s often in an unfamiliar place, not filled with the familiar smells of home, but instead with the noxious smells of disinfectants and other sanitizing agents. Instead of the comfortable bed and pillow near a window where they can look at and see their families, they are surrounded by bars in uncomfortable beds, perhaps with a pillowed covering to try to prevent pressure sores, but perhaps not, with uncomfortable pillows, staring at an institutional ceiling or wall.

Dying naturally is, slowly but surely, making a comeback, because the alternative is a much harder way to die.

For information about planning funerals at funeral homes in Clinton Township, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.

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How to Deal with Death on Social Media

Many people learn of funerals at funeral homes in Macomb, MI through social media. Because social media is an easy platform to let many people know about someone’s death and for people to express their sympathy about someone’s death, it has become a go-to forum for announcing the death of loved ones.

However, just because this may be the easiest way to announce deaths and offer condolences, there are some guidelines that should be followed in how this is done.

The first guideline is that family members should never announce the death of a loved one on social media before they have personally contacted other family members and close friends to let them know that a loved one has died.

It’s becoming more common for immediate and extended family members to get the news that their loved one has died before a family member has called them to personally tell them. The result is often shock and anger from these family members that they found out through social media that someone they loved had died.

So, before anything gets posted on social media (be sure to tell the funeral home when you’re creating an online obituary, because sometimes friends will see the obituary and post it without your knowledge, that you want time before they post the obituary on their website so that you can personally contact the people who need to know), make sure that all family members and close friends get a phone call to let them know your loved one has died.

You don’t have to make all these phone calls yourself. Enlist help so that the burden of making the calls is split up among the people who are available to make them.

Some people wonder if texting or emailing family members and close friends about the death of a loved one is appropriate instead of calling them. The answer is that it depends on how you normally communicate with family members and close friends.

If texting or emailing is your normal method of communication, then it is probably okay in most instances to text or email that your loved one has died. However, all immediate family members should be called and personally told the news.

On the converse side of things, what should you do or not do, as far as social media goes, if you know that a friend’s loved one has died?

If you haven’t seen a social media announcement from the family about the death, then don’t post anything about it. It’s not your story to tell, but your friend’s and their family’s.

If news of the death has been posted on social media by the immediate family, be careful about what you post about the death, especially if the information could be disturbing or painful to the family.

Don’t post cryptic messages that, while not directly referring the death, invite questions from all over the place. There have been instances where a loved one is dying, but has not yet died, but someone posted a cryptic message that people interpreted as meaning the loved one had died. Immediate family members who had not been on social media then got shocking phone calls from people expressing their condolences.

For more information about handling social media from funeral homes in Macomb, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.

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Planning for the Death of a Healthy Spouse

Funerals at funeral homes in Sterling Heights, MI may be the furthest thing from your mind right now. You and your spouse are healthy, working, and moving forward in life fulfilling the hopes and dreams you share.

However, as the years pass, the inevitability of death creeps in, even if both you and your spouse are the epitome of good health. While you’re healthy, though, is the time when you and your spouse, as a team, should be preparing for the time when either one of you might not be around.

Many people think that if they have a substantial life insurance policy, then they’ve done all they need to do to prepare for death and to ensure that their spouse is financially secure after they’re gone.

While everyone should have life insurance (whole life insurance is the best option, because even though premiums are higher than on term life insurance policies, the rates are locked in at the time you bought the policy, and it won’t expire before you do), there is much more that married couples should do to prepare for the death of one of the spouses.

One thing that should be done regularly is to make sure your wills are up-to-date. It’s not unusual for people to create a will sometime during their lives (usually at a momentous event like marriage or the birth or adoption of a child), put it away, and forget about it.

However, life changes over time and some of the information in your original wills may be obsolete or may have changed. It’s a good idea to sit down and review your wills every year and make sure everything in them is currently accurate and relevant.

If changes need to be made, then you can either have your attorney draw up new wills, or you can use online or offline software to make the changes you need to make. When you change and update your wills, sign and date them, at a minimum (it’s best if they’re witnessed and notarized as well, but signing and dating them makes them legally-binding instruments).

Shred all the copies of previous wills so that there will be no confusion among those you leave behind as to what your current wishes and intentions are with regard to your estate and your bequests.

Another way couples can prepare for the death of a spouse is to make sure that both spouses are on primary bank accounts, major credit cards, investment accounts, and retirement accounts.

However, it’s imperative that both spouses also have a bank account and at least one major credit card in their name only as well. This builds a separate credit history for each spouse that will make getting mortgages or other loans easier after one spouse dies.

Another way that couples should prepare for the death of a spouse is to manage income and household bills together. It’s not unusual, with most married couples, for one spouse to handle the finances and the other spouse to have very little knowledge about them. While that’s fine when both spouses are alive, it can be a real detriment when one spouse – the one who handled all the household finances – dies and the other spouse doesn’t know what’s going on.

For information about funerals at funeral homes in Sterling Heights, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.

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Your Finances: Death Cleaning Before You Die

Before funerals at funeral homes in Clinton Township, MI, many people start downsizing their physical lives as their children grow up and leave home and then retirement comes and they realize they’ve got more time behind them than they do ahead of them.

Big houses get sold in favor of smaller houses or retirement community living. Garages, attics, and closets get cleaned. Things of value are given to family members, while other things are either donated to charities or thrown away. The goal becomes making life simple.

But, while many people make sure to clean out their physical lives, they don’t always think about cleaning their financial lives.

Maybe the idea of cleaning your financial life before you die appeals to you, but you don’t know how to start. The first thing you’ll need to do before you start is to get a clear picture of what and where all your financial accounts are.

Financial accounts include bank accounts, investment accounts, retirement accounts, and credit card accounts. If you’re over the age of 50, then it is essential to start cleaning up your finances and making sure that you don’t have any financial messes left for your children to clean up after you’re gone.

The first step to cleaning up your finances is to consolidate your financial accounts. If you have older 401(k) and IRA accounts, you can ask your employer if you can fold them into the retirement plan you have with them, or you can simply consolidate all of them into one new IRA account.

Many people have bank accounts scattered at several different banks. Once you’re sure all payments have cleared, consolidate all your checking accounts into one checking account at one bank. Do the same for your savings account.

Make sure that the bank that you consolidate the checking and savings accounts into has full-service online banking, including digital check deposits, automatic bill payments, transfer capabilities between accounts, and manual bill payments.

As you move forward, if life takes you to a new city, keep the same bank so you’re not constantly opening and closing bank accounts, increasing the possibility that you’ve got several open with several banks.

The second way to clean up your finances is to automate bill payments for bills that are recurring and are for the same amount on the same date every month. This would include bills such as cable or satellite services, cell phone service, mortgage payments, and car payments. If they’re automatically paid each month, then you have less to worry about whether it’s been paid or not, which is a concern as people age.

Another way to clean up your finances is to pay off debt. Instead of leasing a new car every couple of years, convert the lease to a car payment (this will cost you extra money in the short-term, but it will save you money in the long run). If you are able, double your monthly mortgage payments to get your home paid off more quickly.

Pay off credit cards as quickly as possible. Once you get them paid off, keep only one or two major credit cards and one gas card, if you have any. It’s best to keep the credit cards that you’ve had opened the longest (these also probably have lower annual interest rates).

Going forward, use the credit cards only for what you are able to pay in full each month. Otherwise, use only your debit card or cash to make purchases.

For information about funerals at funeral homes in Clinton Township, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.

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Funeral Home Etiquette

If you’re attending your first funeral at funeral homes in Macomb, MI, you may wonder what you should and shouldn’t do and say. Funerals are unique in that there are certain unspoken rules about what we should do and what we should say, and it can be unnerving to walk into this kind of atmosphere for the first time.

There are some things you should not do when you’re attending a funeral. One of those is to bring very young or overactive children. Funerals are, by nature, solemn and quiet events. This is to show respect to the grieving family by acknowledging and sharing in the sadness and sorrow of their loss, and to show respect to the memory of their loved one who has died.

Very young children can be fussy and children who are overactive can be disruptive. This disturbs the peace of a funeral. If you have very young or very rambunctious children, you should leave them with a sitter so that you don’t disrupt the atmosphere of the funeral.

Another thing you should not do when you attend a funeral is to avoid the family receiving line. You may be fearful that you won’t say the right thing or the line may seem too long to wait in. However, bereaved families need support and encouragement as they are beginning the journey of grief for their loved one who has died. A simple “I’m sorry for your loss,” or a quick hug will go a very long way in providing them with comfort.

Don’t leave your cell phone on. The best rule of thumb is to leave your cell phone in your car, so you don’t have to remember to mute it before going in to the funeral home. Believe it or not, there was actually a time when cell phones didn’t exist, and phone calls and messages waited until people got home. Nothing but the funeral should be on your radar while you’re there.

Don’t forget to sign the guest book at a funeral. There will usually be someone at the door of the funeral parlor to direct you to the guest book. This book will be given to the family after the funeral so they can see who attended the funeral of their loved one (this time will be a blur for them, so they won’t remember everyone who came to pay their respects).

If you come with your spouse or another family member, each of you should sign your guest book. Be sure to print your first and last name (and include the city and state where you live) if your signature is hard to read.

Don’t forget to send the family a gift – or make a donation to a charity they’ve specified – and a sympathy card. One of the nicest gifts you can give to the family is a plant that flowers. Send it to their home, so that they can either keep it alive inside or so that they can plant it outside in memory of their loved one.

For the sympathy card, choose a simple card that is blank inside and write a short note. Remember to sign your full name, and to include your mailing address on the envelope.

For more information about funeral etiquette at funeral homes in Macomb, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.

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Guide to Funeral Attire

If you’re wondering about funeral attire at funeral homes in Sterling Heights, MI, here are some time-tested guidelines about what you should – and should not – wear.

Don’t be surprised if you attend a funeral and you see people wearing all kinds of attire. You may see people dressed very formally. You may see people dressed in business casual clothing. And you may see people dressed way down, as if they are heading out to a recreational activity or getting ready to do yardwork.

This may be very disorienting and confusing as you wonder whose attire is appropriate for a funeral and whose is not. The reason that you see this wide and disparate range of attire is that some people have been taught about appropriate funeral attire, and they dress in a manner that shows respect to the deceased and the bereaved family.

Other people, who perhaps have never attended a funeral before, have not been taught that how they dress can be a symbol of respect or disrespect, as well as a reflection of the soberness of some events that demands different attire than what they normally wear throughout the course of the rest of their lives.

If you’re unsure about what is appropriate and what is not appropriate attire for a funeral, consider these broad thoughts about funerals and their purpose. A funeral is a ceremony that enables a grieving family to be comforted during the loss of a loved one. It is also a ceremony that pays tribute to someone who has died.

Therefore, the focus of funerals is the family and the deceased, not the other mourners who are attending. So, if what you are thinking about wearing would draw attention away from the family and the deceased to yourself, then you shouldn’t wear it.

Extremely casual clothing like shorts, t-shirts, jeans, baseball caps, flip-flops, sandals, and tennis shoes is not appropriate funeral attire. Because this type of attire makes the people wearing it stand out in the crowd of mourners, it naturally draws attention away from the bereaved family and their loved one who has died. It can also give the impression of being disrespectful and insensitive.

By the same token, provocative clothing that fits like a second skin, has plunging necklines, and hems that are extremely short (if you have to keep pulling a skirt down, it’s too tight and too short) is also inappropriate attire for a funeral.

If you’ve never attended a funeral and don’t know what attire you have that is acceptable, look through your closet and pick out an outfit that you would wear for a professional job interview at a corporation.

Remember that even if professional corporations have a business casual or casual dress code for employees, they expect interviewees for employment to dress more formally because that is part of what they use to evaluate whether they will hire them or not.

So, for women attending a funeral, dress modestly in a professional outfit that is black, dark brown, navy or gray. Wear a simple dress or nice pantsuit with a nice blouse. Keep jewelry to a minimum. Wear dress flat shoes.

Men attending a funeral should wear dark dress pants, a dress shirt, and a blazer. Ties are optional, but if they’re worn, they should be dark and plain. Dress shoes that are neat and clean should be worn.

For more information about funeral attire at funeral homes in Mount Sterling Heights, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.

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Attending a Funeral

When you attend a funeral at funeral homes in Clinton Township, MI, you are there to show support for a family who has lost a loved one and to show respect for the person who has died. There are things that are appropriate to do at a funeral and things that are not appropriate to do.

Attending a funeral is never easy, even if you didn’t know the deceased well or you didn’t know them at all, but know or are friends with a member of their immediate family. You may find that you are unexpectedly feeling emotionally vulnerable when you’re attending a funeral, so one of the things that you need to do is to make sure to keep your own emotions in check while you’re attending the funeral.

Your presence at the funeral should be respectful, caring, and empathetic toward the family who has lost their loved one, so one of the things that is appropriate is to express your condolences to the family. If they choose not to have a viewing or visitation, then one way to show your condolences is to send a plant or floral arrangement to the funeral home for the funeral, or to make a donation to a charity that the family requests that contributions be given to.

When you offer condolences, make sure to let the family know how you are connected to their loved one, whether you’re a friend of one of the immediate family members, were a coworker of their loved one, or you knew them from a church or fraternal organization.

If you send a floral arrangement or plant or make a charitable contribution in the deceased’s name, be sure to include your full name so that the family doesn’t confuse you with someone else who may share the same first name as yours.

Be sure to sign the guest register at the funeral. Include your full name and your address so that the family has this information when they are sending thank-you notes after the funeral for gifts, flowers, and charitable donations.

During the funeral service, be sure to mute your cellphone or turn it off altogether. There is nothing more jarring – or disrespectful – than to hear a ringtone (and with the plethora of ringtones available, some of these may be very inappropriate) during a solemn service like a funeral.

Do not be late to the funeral. Be sure to leave enough time to allow for heavy traffic or a traffic accident so that you are not arriving at the funeral service after the it has begun. The disruption caused by a latecomer trying to find a seat is very disrespectful to the deceased and to the grieving family.

Be thoughtful about seating at the funeral. The first three rows are usually reserved for the immediate family, extended family, and close friends of the deceased. The appropriate way to find a seat at a funeral is to find the next available seat at the back (mourners typically fill in the seating from back to front).

Do not sit in an aisle seat if there are other seats available further inside the row. People who arrive after you should not have to crawl over you to get a place to sit.

Do not show up at a funeral uninvited. Public funerals are considered to be open to anyone who would like to attend. Private funerals, on the other hand, are invitation-only, where the family specifically invites the people that they want to attend the funeral. If the obituary says that the funeral is private and you don’t receive an invitation, then you should not attend.

For more information about attending funerals at funeral homes in Clinton Township, MI, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lee-Ellena Funeral Home can help. You can come by our funeral home at 46530 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb, MI, 48044 or you can contact us today at (586) 412-8999.